Narc moms.
Raised by a narcissist , Some insight
https://themindsjournal.com/13-ways-being-raised-by-a-narcissist-can-affect-you/
As an adult do you sometimes …Possible connection
1) Have difficulty making decisions?Your parents criticized or second-guessed your choices.
2) Get uncomfortable when good things happen?Your parents ruined good times with selfish behavior or gave gifts with strings attached.
3) Worry or ruminate over confrontations with others?Your parents forbade you to disagree with them or punished you for doing so.
4) Too often please others at your own expense?Your parents used guilt or pressure to make you put their needs first.
5) Feel unable to get close to others even when you want to?Your parents had a come-here/go-away style that was confusing and unsafe.
6) Find it difficult to relax, laugh or be spontaneous?Your parents behaved unpredictably or over-scrutinized you.
7) Feel inexplicably drawn to turmoil rather than harmony in your relationships?Your parents created drama, scapegoating and disharmony in your family.
8) Expect too much of yourself?Your parents never seemed satisfied with you.
9) View others as fragile or view yourself as too much for others to handle?Your parents played the martyr or became unhinged by your questions or independence.
10) Trust others unwisely or, conversely, find it hard to trust even when you want to?Your parents told you that you could trust them, then disappointed or used you.
11) Feel numb or have difficulty knowing what you are feeling?Your parents minimized or ridiculed your feelings and desires.12) Feel extra-sensitive around bossy, entitled or manipulative people.Your parents needed to be the center of attention or dominate most conversations.
13) Self-soothe through excessive food, drink, shopping or other addictive behaviors?Your parents’ behavior left you feeling trapped, unloved, hopeless or helpless.
You are not a victim, nor are you powerless. The opportunity in recognizing unhealthy legacies is to break the connections.
Each time you notice yourself falling into one of the patterns listed above, remind yourself, “This may have been my history but it doesn’t have to be my destiny.”
Then ask yourself empowering questions such as:
1)What is best way to take care of me and meet my needs in this situation?”
2)“Is this how I want to treat myself or others?”
3)“Who do I want to be in the world right now?”
